~2/19/18~
Relationships are something most of us either long for in life or get to experience. Hopefully, we all get to experience a relationship sometime in our life, but there are also people in this world that are perfectly okay with never being in a relationship and that's okay too. I am 19 years old and can admit that I have never had a relationship. Not that I have never wanted one, but I just never had a guy that I was interested in, interested in me. That's okay too. I am 19 (almost 20 years old) and saying that I have never had a boyfriend can sometimes make me feel like a loser. A lot of people by the age of 20 could have possibly been through 8 boyfriends, or more, by now. Now I just want to put out there that I'll mostly be using the word "boyfriend" but this can work with girlfriends as well! There have been multiple times in my life where I feel lonely and just long for that feeling of having someone love me. I know I have so many people who love me in my life but I wanted to have that one "special" person to love me. It's a feeling that most teenage girls experience in their life time at some point or another. That's okay too, its normal. Now I don't have any advice about "being" in a relationship because I simply have never done it. We all want to find that love of our life, its natural to want and strive for that. Now some advice I do have is how to go about looking for a relationship.
~Don't rush it! - It will come. If you are 15 years old, you're still so young so don't force yourself to like someone and get into a relationship. If you are 26 and feel like its never going to happen, it will, God's timing is everything so you have to fully trust in him even though it might be super super super hard sometimes.
~It's okay to be alone.- Even if you have been alone for years or a couple weeks, it's totally okay. First off you are never fully alone because you have so many people in your life who care and love you deeply. Take this time to be alone and invest in yourself. God hasn't put anyone in your life right now for a reason, so take it. Invest in you, in your friends and family and invest more in Him.
~Don't settle!- Girls, I'm about to say something that might really confuse you. When dating and hopefully one day marrying someone, don't you dare marry a Christian boy. You deserve to marry a Godly Man. Don't waste your time and love on some Christian boy when God has placed a Godly man in this world for you. Boys, it goes the same way, search for that Godly Woman you are meant to marry and don't bother with Christian girls. You know what you want in your life in a potential partner one day so don't go around dating tons of people just to "date." Wait. Wait for that person who will make you stronger as a person and stronger in your relationship with the Lord. That's the person you deserve to love and marry.
~Date with ideas in mind! Going into a relationship you should know what you want in a person and what you want to get out of the relationship. Don't settle or change your ideas for the person. When you find the one who has the same ideas in dating as you do then it will make the relationship stronger and you will be able to push each other towards things such as your relationship with the lord. Keep your values and morals close to your heart and don't compromise. Also, don't try to find "the one." If you are constantly searching, you won't find him. Don't have your heart set in just trying to find a relationship because God will know that now is not the right time for him to come into your life.
~Love Him first!- This is so simple in itself. Before you get into any relationship, your heart should love the Lord most of all. If you don't love the Lord more than you love your boyfriend or husband, then that's not a relationship rooted in Christ.
Relationships can be weird and messy but can also be so exciting and make you feel a certain way you have never felt before. I hope to find that kind of love one day. I am almost 20 years old and have never had a boyfriend before. Although I have struggled with that in my life, especially when all my friends around me are having guys come up to them showing interest and getting themselves into relationships, I am now okay with being single. It took a while and there still some moments where I wish I did have someone in my life, but not as much as before. I am now at the point where I have finally realized once I find my husband, they will be with me for the rest of my life. Now is the only time I have to myself. I have taken this time to pour my heart into Jesus more, those who are around me, and spend time with people who are important to me. I am taking this time by myself to its full advantage. I know God has my plan and I have to trust him. My husband might be at App State with me, he might be in California. He might be someone I have never met or might be someone I have known my entire life. I don't have any of these answers but I know God does so I trust in his timing for me to find those answers out. You have to too. Whether you're in a relationship now or you are longing for one, its okay. Both are okay! Hopefully, you are with someone who is helping you grow as a person and you are both helping each other in growing in your relationship with God. If you are longing for love, it's okay, don't stress about it, it'll come in time when God knows you are ready for it.
~As always, Keep your Eyes Wide Open and look toward the Lord.
"A woman's heart should be so close to God that a man should have to chase Him to find her." -C.S. Lewis
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